You’re still waiting for permission aren’t you?
We spoke about waiting in a previous article. It’s just another way of procrastinating.
Waiting on the right time, waiting on some money, waiting for the new year, waiting for PERMISSION.
No one is going to give you permission. People ask me how I stay motivated.
Truth is I’m not that motivated at all. I’m just disciplined. I also don’t care what anyone else thinks about me.
You want to do A but your family wants you to do B, so you’re hesitant about doing A because you don’t want to upset your “family.”
I’ll tell you from know. You’re only going to grow to resent them. So what do you do?
You stop being a coward. Let your inner winner out.
Now is the time more than ever to build something right out of the ashes and rise. It may sound corny, it may sound cliché but times like this is fertile ground for growth.
If you didn’t know at any other point in time that listening to your family and their hard sell on the status quo was bunk, now is the time.
I sure as hell got my wake up call. I had to learn this lesson the hard way. Now I’m putting myself in position to never have to go through this again when it inevitably happens again.
Listening to the 99% crowd isn’t going to get you into the 1% club.
If you want to be uncommon amongst the uncommon you have to have an obnoxious work ethic.
Your friends and family will either support you or they won’t. I keep drilling this aspect of personal development because I realized not too long ago that many don’t want to make it to their promised land. They don’t want you to make it either.
No, seriously. I lived most of my life trying to help my friends and family see that they must push forward to live life on their own terms because they’ll be wasting it if they don’t.
I’ve always been a slow bloomer but I’ve always been wise enough to see that there’s more to life than what meets the eye. And behind the veil lies a life that’s independent of the constraints of the matrix.
So how do you convince your family, friends, girlfriend that you’re going to succeed, be successful and live life on your own terms? You don’t. And you won’t try. No one will ever believe you. This is a lonely game.
You should never conspire with people that seek to sabotage you. We spoke about the well meaning advice they give. Their well meaning advice amounts to nothing because of two things:
- They don’t know your vision
- They’re jealous because you remind them of something they’re not doing.
These people surrounding you aren’t on the same wavelength as you. They aren’t even your real enemy.
You want to know who the real enemy is? You want to know who needs to be convinced? You.
You need to build thick skin and an iron resolve in order to get after what you want. If you don’t, you’ll regret it. You’ll look back when you’re 83 only to realize that you sabotaged yourself.
You resisted your calling only to have ended up living out someone else’s dreams. How’s that for a waste of potential?
The best decision I’ve even made was brainwashing myself into believing that I can do anything I put my mind to and no one will stop me.
I made this decision a long time ago. Since then I’ve had a lot of women come and go in my life because I wouldn’t put them first.
I was the type to do my homework and projects before I went out partying. I never put off work to chill with my “significant other” because she wasn’t more significant than my dreams.
In the back of my mind it was a gamble to fall into that trap. Focus on a relationship, put energy into it all for her to wake up one day and decide to leave.
This is the reality for many people right. They replace their calling for a relationship with someone else that probably won’t stick around.
Instead of being someone who self sabotages themself, learn to love solitude.
Build thick skin and unrelenting resolve.
And here’s something I’m learning. The more successful I become in any one direction, the stronger the fear becomes. The more pressure I feel.
For example, I’ve come a long way with my personal development. I use to have a bad temper. Every now and again I fear slipping back into that weaker version of myself where I would let petty annoyances move me to anger and ruin my day.
Some people are purposely scared to become better versions of themselves because they’re afraid someone might leave them for back sliding.
I kid you not, I saw a post on Reddit in the personal development section that asked:
“If you improve yourself and find someone, will they love you only for the improved version of yourself?
That’s what keeping me back on my self improvement journey. I know I over think things. But if I improve myself, find someone and go back to my before self, what will happen? If you improve do you become someone else?Thanks for listening to my twisted questions.”
This is a perfect example of fear of success. This person asks if they improve will they become someone else.
This is not only our friends and family’s fear, it’s our fear too. We are afraid of becoming someone else.
We’re afraid of the pressure from the upkeep that it requires. It’s much easier to just stay the same right? Wrong.
Sooner than later the resentment towards self starts to build until we’re crushed under its weight.
The bigger you become the harder you fall.
When you get to a point where you’re thriving and others are not, they’ll feel as if you somehow slighted them.
I watch this play out in society all the time. Someone makes it out the hood, they come back to give back and there’s no love. It’s scary.
This is why I implore you not to ask for permission. Just go after it. You’re giving yourself away when you ask for permission.
People will catch on to what you’re doing. The lizard part of your brain craves acceptance from the group. You’ll end up sabotaging your efforts when succumbing to the pressure of the group to stay the same.
You’re going to have to fight your way through that fear. That fear of being successful. That pressure to remain mediocre.
Fight all the way down the line.