When entering into any relationship, whether it’s romantic, business or friendship, their past matters.
Why? Because you’re taking your time and making an investment into this persons past. I’ll also like to add that their past dictates their motivations for engaging with you. In other words, they want to see how much of a utility you’ll serve to be.
What this means is that everything they’ve done up until the point of your agreement to transact, will potentially impact your life later on(or immediately).
For example, a person who doesn’t have their life together “seeking a mate” clearly has their priorities mixed up, unless they’re looking to use that mate as a crutch.
Or a person in the “business world” looking to create a “team” without bringing anything substantial to the table themselves are charlatans.
This is why you should vet everyone you’re about to enter any kind of relationship with.
Your time is precious.
Some say this is cold or detached but it’s the intelligent thing to do. It’s a form self-preservation.
People only show you the best side of themselves when first meeting. They call it, “making a good first impression.” But you can easily vet these people out by observing them. Everyone has a tell—red flags, skeletons in the closet.
Some will even openly reveal their troubled past to get you to have sympathy for them so they can inevitably pull the wool over your eyes.
It’s up to you whether you want to make that investment or not. But just know, their past matters.